Heart-Ghibat Hasad
“Bismillahir Rahmannir Raheem”Al-Hamdu Lillaahi Rabbil ‘Aalameen was Salaatu was- Salaamu ‘Alaa Sayidinaa Muhammadin wa Aalihi wa Asabihi Ajma ‘een (tauheed- risalat- ahkirat and islam-iman-ihsan)
GHIBAT/BACKBITING
General definition
A person would dislike to have said about him . If it is true, then it is gheebah (backbiting), and if it is not true then it is buhtan (slander).
Speaking about a Muslim in his absence and saying things that he would not like it.
Buhtan or slander means telling lies about him.
Nameemah or malicious gossip means telling one person what another said in order to cause trouble between them.
Its telling lie or mixing of your nafs and If its true ,cover up the faults.
Speaking in absence of a person means accusation or exposing faults
For accusation produce witnesses AND for exposing him (finding faults)-A momim covers the faults of a muslim and in turn Allah will cover your faults .
The honour of a Mu’min is more than the respect of Kaba.
Even listening to backbiting is a sin
Backbiter will gain sins and actual person will lose sins.
Conditions applied for saying its “ghibat”
1.. Mentioned in the absence of the person and were he to know about it he would not like it.
2. Clear Intention of exposing/defaming him or in trying to find defects in him(nafs is involved)
3. Present in a person+ People don’t know about it
ITS NOT GHIBAT
1. No intention of defaming/exposing/finding faults
2. Present in a person+ People know about it
If there is no mention of name or special traits of a person =not Ghiībat.
Always say Allah knows better, but this is my opinion.
Make people know about zaalim/oppressor( corrupt politician,murderer,robber,rapist etc etc) and fasiq/open sinner (its not ghibat)
Prevent zaalim from oppression (liberate the society) by using hand,tongue or atleast feel bad in your heart (least of the iman).
TREATMENT
Best is to avoid speaking in absence.
Don’t specify the name /trait of a person.
Always speak good/praise people in their absence is good.
Always say Allah knows better, but this is my opinion.
Pray for forgiveness/guidance/happiness(dua) for the person about whom you backbite.
If possible one must apologize to the person whose Ghiība he had done
He must make up for it by speaking well of the person in proportion to the Ghiība he has committed with regard to this person.
JEALOUSY/HASAD
Allah rewarded/blessed someone with status,wealth,knowledge,health,children,resources etc etc , you have challenged Allah’s decision. blessing is a test /reward. hasad eats away all your good deeds.
Wealth –Nemat for people of duniya and test for people of ahkirah
Test =that which takes you away from Allah.
Reward=that which takes you closer to Allah.
Treatment =say “o Allah, reward him more” (even you will be rewarded )
Eating halaal –accountable and Eating haraam-punishable
So eat sunnah way (1/3 food+1/3 water+1/3 air)
HASAD
Hasad in wealth/status/ilm(neymat/gifts/rewards)
Neymat is distributed by Allah.
Hasad means challenging/questioning his decision on distribution of neymat.
Don’t compare with others and be thankful/shukr to Allah for what you have.
ADAWAT/ENEMITY
Nafs/shaitan/desires/bad sohbat =enemies
Waswas/parallel thoughts /on-off thoughts are from shaitan.
Negative/destructive thoughts are from nafs/self
Good and contructive thoughts are from Allah which cannot be avoided.
ALWAYS BE IN WUDHU
Desires/wishes/hirs – keep tawakkal(trust),show patience(sabr) and be thankfull to Allah(shukr).
Tawakkal /trust
Stronger tawakkal is stonger iman
Use duniya(don’t trust) but keep tawakkal/trust on Allah.
Duniya is for amal/deeds and kidmate deen.
Duniya=anything which takes you away from Allah
Sincere tawakkal is sidq e qalb(sincerity of heart).
Never compare with anyone.
When I want to talk to allah I say prayers and when I want that he talk to me I recite quran- Hazrath Ali(ra)
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