Manners-Marraige
“Bismillahir Rahmannir Raheem”Al-Hamdu Lillaahi Rabbil ‘Aalameen was Salaatu was- Salaamu ‘Alaa Sayidinaa Muhammadin wa Aalihi wa Asabihi Ajma ‘een (tauheed- risalat- ahkirat and islam-iman-ihsan)
THE ETIQUETTE OF MARRIAGE
CHECK PEOPLE WITH RESPECT TO = Aqidah e ahle sunnat wal jamaat + ahklaq e awliya/sufiya.
Safeguarding the kull deen
1.Ibadate elahi /worshipping Allah ﷻ (with love and marifat/knowing)
2.Ghulamane mustafa(ﷺ) /Be a servant of rasoolallah ﷺ to please allah(ﷻ)
3.Mohabbate ahle baith(as) /loving ahle baith(as)
4.Azmate sahaba (ra)/ Esteem status of sahaba(ra)
5.Sohbate auliya(ra).
TASAWUFF
1.iqlas e niyyat (sincerity and purity –seeking only allah and his pleasure)
2.ilm e nafae (profitable knowledge- quran and sunnah )
3.amal e saleh (good deeds/taqwa (avoiding sins))
4.ahklaq e hasana (building good character- free from diseases of heart)
5.salamate sudur (protecting living heart -by sohbate awliya)
Every young man able to support a wife and family should marry, for marriage preserves one from immorality. Living in celibacy is an act abhorred in Islam.
A man cannot marry a woman who is mahram according to the Islamic Law. Seven classes of women are prohibited by reason of consanguinity and seven by reason of relationship by marriage.
The woman who most adheres to Islam is the ideal wife. A woman may be married for her property, her rank, or her beauty. shyness ,sensitivity, moderate in deen( fullfilling huqooq ullah) and duniya (fulfilling huqooq ul ibaad ) are other attributes required in a wife.
Marriage with a non-relative enlarges the circle of relatives by adding new ones.
There is nothing at all wrong in marrying a divorced woman provided that she does not wish to return to her first husband.
A woman should exercise her right to approve or disapprove of marriage to a particular man, but should be far-sighted and wise in making such a decision.
Wealth, rank, good position and job, or any other material privilege, do
not alone add up to proper attributes for a future husband.
When you are invited, attend with the intention that you are attending a blessed and good invitation, one which is delightful and approved in the Shari’ah.
Speak accordingly with the occasion or function what your attending.
It is recommended that you congratulate the bride and bridegroom by reciting the du’a of Rasulullah (saws) -Barakallahu laka wa baaraka ‘alaika wa jama’a bainakuma fi khair
Islam permits women to celebrate a wedding by singing tasteful songs accompanied by beating of the duff. Such poems and songs should not promote lust, lewd desires and sin. Instead, they should sing delightful and decent songs to express their happiness and joy with the marriage.
Before sexual intercourse say the dua – ‘With the Name of Allah; O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep Satan away from what you grant us [from offspring],’ then, if Allah grants them a child, he (Satan) will not harm him.
no anal sex and no sex during menstruation .
One should not withdraw after ejaculation until she has fulfilled her desire.
One should keep whatever takes place between them and their partner private. Do not disclose your words/ actions .
Parents should not delay in giving a name to a recently born child; they should do so as soon as possible, preferably within seven days of the birth.
If the parents have agreed on the choice of name, well and good. If not, then it is the right of the father to name the child.
It is recommended that parents give children good, beautiful and meaningful names.
Some of the best names are: Abdallah, Abd al-Rahman, and Al-Harith. Names consisting of two parts, the first of which is Abd(slave) compounded with one of Allahs names are considered beautiful.
Children may be given the names of Prophets.
Names of Angel such as Gabriel, should be avoided.
The main elements of the full name are the first name, fathers name, and surname.
Every child must be brought into relation to his father and called by his real fathers surname.
When I want to talk to allah I say prayers and when I want that he talk to me I recite quran- Hazrath Ali(ra)
Make sure you forward this to others .